Online communication can be a difficult format for realness to surface. So much can be misconstrued in the cyber realm. People can grab hold of a word or turn of phrase you use and run it through the filter of their own assumptions and insecurities; taking its meaning in the opposite way it was intended. I have directly experienced the chopping and dicing of something I have shared only to have it used as ammunition against me for the benefit of someone proving they are 'right'. It's a shame when this happens because all opportunity for growth within the context of relationship is cut off. Life is all about relationship and it is vital we learn to interact with others in healthy ways that support further growth and freedom of sharing. Otherwise, we sever ourselves from receiving the gift of relating and the lessons it has to teach. It amazes me how often people choose to go on the defensive rather than simply ask, "Could you clarify what you meant by that comment so I can better understand?" I think it can be hard for us to enter this space of receptivity because we can be so intensively egocentric. We all have a need to establish our autonomy. How many of us have that need to know, or desire to be right? I have my hand raised. It is an issue I struggle with. What about you? No really... look at it deeply.
When we approach another in this space of receptivity we open ourselves to truthful connection and communication. It is a surrender that implies the willingness to accept that our assumptions, judgments, and knee-jerk responsiveness stem from reactiveness and may lack a basis in truth. What does this say about us? That we are wrong or somehow bad or less than? No... it shows that we are human... flawed and imperfect, yet beautiful and complete in our design. Why not open ourselves to really connecting with each other on a real level? What is the worst that could happen? That we stretch and grow... becoming more of who we truly are?
When we approach another in this space of receptivity we open ourselves to truthful connection and communication. It is a surrender that implies the willingness to accept that our assumptions, judgments, and knee-jerk responsiveness stem from reactiveness and may lack a basis in truth. What does this say about us? That we are wrong or somehow bad or less than? No... it shows that we are human... flawed and imperfect, yet beautiful and complete in our design. Why not open ourselves to really connecting with each other on a real level? What is the worst that could happen? That we stretch and grow... becoming more of who we truly are?
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